It is always difficult to break into an already established family of your spouse, no matter how nice they are. One of the most controversial questions that come up is should you call your in-laws' mom and dad. However, it’s
completely a personal choice.
Ideally, you must connect with your spouse’s family to develop a relationship with them. Only then you can decide whether to call your in-laws' mom and dad.
Develop a relationship with them
Try to spend some quality time with your in-laws. This will help you develop a natural relationship with them. The magical words’ mom and dad’ will naturally come out from your mouth for your in-laws. Definitely, they have earned it!
What if you don’t want to call your in-law's mom & dad?
If you’re totally against calling your in-laws mom & dad, you must politely let your partner know about it. Remember to be calm and gentle as this is a very sensitive and touchy issue. Give a diplomatic yet believable reason for your denial and don’t bad mouth the in-laws. Remember, your partner would never like to hear bad words about his/her parents as you must respect them no matter what.
What if you change your mind?
Some people need time to understand their extended family and adjust to them. It’s totally okay if down the line you feel like calling your in-law's mom and dad. This changeover might occur when you see the bond between them & your children.It’s never too late to give them the respect and honor they deserve.
Alternatives to Mom and Dad
Well, this is a tricky situation. Anyways, you can call your in-laws either by their first name or last name depending on the kind of relationship you share with them. The name must be such that is able to satisfy your spouse and in-laws. You can also discuss this with your spouse and come up with a name that is respectful and keeps the peace intact in your extended family.