Where is Male's Fatherhood, amid Mother and his baby. An essay for ladies.
Does Fatherhood Exist? Where is Male in between Mother and Her baby? A must read for ladies.
I identify about all the jubilation over the birth of male children in our humankind. Controlled, condemned and inspected it too. And as this male grows, I have also observed how we see him with the comments of Ghar ka aur Ghar walon ka Chirag (only wish of family and house). Of course, the women need to be accountable too. However, for the men, each stride is calculated since the liability of running the family lies with him, no issue how old it sounds. But feminists get over this; the fact is that we all always look for a well established, well-paid male for our daughters. Why not a homely, well mannered & cultured one?
Then apart from all these the biggest issue is a, when this man, after competently and tediously doing all his selected duties becomes a Father. The noise is all about mummies - (believe me, I am a blameworthy party also) her healthiness, her child, her diet, her sleep, her mood, the ever-raging hormones, her hatred to relatives, friends, throwing her mass around everywhere (factually at times).
Why Father's Day not so Hyped.
But we are not interested in focusing on motherhood. Let us move our focus to the man who now takes a back seat. He may not have powerful hormones, but certain experiences emotions too. So being seriously examined as to how he holds his baby each time may hurt him too. Or how incorrectly he altered the last used diaper or the truth that he does not make out how to check the warmth of milk in the bottle. Why don’t the People recognize that this male too may be sipping some cold tea, omitted his meals, having restless nights, going to job devoid of a frown and coming back home just to soothe his exhausted wife?
This male, who was possibly the focus of attention starts wondering what went erroneous the moment his wife delivered. The lady who went in nervous, wanting him psychologically and in the flesh abruptly gets into the avatar of Jhansi ki Rani, who at the simple sight of this male loses it all. The manner he sleeps eats, snores, watches TV, turns off the lights, uses the lavatory, or even stride, disturbs the resting baby. How his life, his friends, his family and relations are all his and no longer theirs. Confused male, his only mistake, he is not good at expressing, and the whole lot he tries to say or do unknowingly turns into a quarrel.
His shortcomings.when dealing with Family.
He is constantly been educated crying is for girls. Expressing yourself is not a male trait (Mard ko dard nahi hota). He has been trained to excellence that he has now totally forgotten how to put it in expressions: Yes, I accept The Baby Needs You, but I want you also.'